Friday, November 30, 2018
My new love...soap!
Soap?? Yep! I am in love with soap. I have never been a person who would even think about spending a lot of money on beauty/health products. However, I had seen an advertisement for handmade soap at a shop in my home town. When I was on a quick visit there a few weeks ago, I swung by the shop, It was a crowded day, but I picked up a couple of things. I. Am. Hooked. My hands have never felt so smooth and soft. I actually look forward to washing my hands! I had picked up some holiday scents and they smell awesome, and I am just completely in love with them. Of course they are more expensive than buying hand soap at the grocery store, but I've decided it is going to be a splurge I'm willing to make on occasion. I am meeting my mom for lunch tomorrow, and I plan to swing by the store before I leave town!
Thursday, November 29, 2018
And that's why I don't like to substitute in Phys Ed
Today I was only scheduled to work this morning. Honestly, I was looking forward to having some extra time to get some things done around the house. When I got to school though, they were short two subs so I agreed to stay and spend the afternoon in art class. However, both the music teacher I was subbing for this morning and the art teacher for the afternoon had 1st period plan, so I was sent to Phys Ed just for that class. I was sitting there thinking how grateful I am that it was only for the one class period, when all of a sudden there is a commotion and a student is coming across the gym with blood all over his face. In jumping for a football, he tripped over some mats on the floor, and collided with another student. His managed to go head first into the door, and his face fell into a lock with his nose striking a handle. Oh goodness! Two other students escorted him to the nurse, and I was relieved to hear that it doesn't sound as though stitches are required.
The ironic thing is that I had been asked to attend a training yesterday for first aid, and specifically bleeding. I had to do band things so I couldn't, but of course several people joked with me about it. It was not at all how I had planned to begin my day...and it's why I don't want to be a sub in Phys Ed!
The ironic thing is that I had been asked to attend a training yesterday for first aid, and specifically bleeding. I had to do band things so I couldn't, but of course several people joked with me about it. It was not at all how I had planned to begin my day...and it's why I don't want to be a sub in Phys Ed!
Tuesday, November 27, 2018
Trying to change my attitude
I'm not going to lie...I've been struggling with holidays this year. I have known all along it is going to be different, and I am a firm believer that things shouldn't continue to be done just because that is the way it has always been done. But this year, I'm just really struggling. I'm finding it tough to shop, specifically for my in-laws because I know they don't want just "things." At this point in their life what they need are physical help, and we just can't be there to do that. I'm not sure how to make it happen from here, but I am extremely cognizant of what I am purchasing for them. Catherine and Thomas never made lists, although with Thomas it is kind of easy, and I'm sure we will come up with things for Catherine. Robert needs a computer and most of the family is contributing to that, which is easy. I just feel behind overall.
I was annoyed with taking down the fall decorations this year. We had warm weather for so long, and then it felt like it went straight to cold. I felt like we missed having real fall-like weather, and I'm annoyed by that.
I was annoyed by the schedule of the past weekend, I'll be honest. Even beyond that, I was annoyed with my Christmas decorations. Suddenly, I didn't like them. I went shopping yesterday to try to find some more, and I just can't find anything I like.
I'm not enjoying my Christmas cards this year, which is usually one of my favorite things about Christmas. It's not that it feels like work, but because I decided to go with a different plan this year, I'm not enjoying it as much.
I feel like a grinch and a scrooge and I don't like myself. I think about the family whose young son received a bone marrow transplant yesterday from his little brother, and everything they have all been through. I feel so guilty for being whiny about my little problems...and they aren't even really problems. I'm just in a bad mood, and I need to get over myself.
Last evening was a step in that direction. After delivering wreaths (the never-ending band fundraiser) I decided to go shopping. I didn't buy anything I had set out to buy, but I did find some other things. I enjoyed some time to myself, and I enjoyed the Christmas music in the stores. It was snowing, and although it was cold and the roads were wet, I couldn't help but smile at the young girl who ran out of the store and gasped and was so excited about the snow falling. And the snow made the holiday lights look even more lovely.
I'm still struggling with some things, but I'm also remembering life's beautiful blessings.
I was annoyed with taking down the fall decorations this year. We had warm weather for so long, and then it felt like it went straight to cold. I felt like we missed having real fall-like weather, and I'm annoyed by that.
I was annoyed by the schedule of the past weekend, I'll be honest. Even beyond that, I was annoyed with my Christmas decorations. Suddenly, I didn't like them. I went shopping yesterday to try to find some more, and I just can't find anything I like.
I'm not enjoying my Christmas cards this year, which is usually one of my favorite things about Christmas. It's not that it feels like work, but because I decided to go with a different plan this year, I'm not enjoying it as much.
I feel like a grinch and a scrooge and I don't like myself. I think about the family whose young son received a bone marrow transplant yesterday from his little brother, and everything they have all been through. I feel so guilty for being whiny about my little problems...and they aren't even really problems. I'm just in a bad mood, and I need to get over myself.
Last evening was a step in that direction. After delivering wreaths (the never-ending band fundraiser) I decided to go shopping. I didn't buy anything I had set out to buy, but I did find some other things. I enjoyed some time to myself, and I enjoyed the Christmas music in the stores. It was snowing, and although it was cold and the roads were wet, I couldn't help but smile at the young girl who ran out of the store and gasped and was so excited about the snow falling. And the snow made the holiday lights look even more lovely.
I'm still struggling with some things, but I'm also remembering life's beautiful blessings.
Monday, November 26, 2018
Thanksgiving came and went
Honestly, I didn't love this year's Thanksgiving. The day itself was very nice and I enjoyed seeing so much of my extended family. In fact, there were 31 of us altogether at my aunt's house, and only my sister and Robert were missing from the family. It was nice to see everyone, and Robert even took a couple of moments and FaceTimed so he could say hello to everyone.
The rest of the holiday though, was a little rough. The kids had swim Tuesday evening, and I was working frantically trying to get the house picked up. In fact, I worked until 10:00 that evening, and the kids were helping also. I ended up sleeping on the couch because that way I could go ahead and change the sheets on our bed because I was fairly certain I wouldn't have time on Wednesday...and I would've been correct!
The kids had swim first thing Wednesday morning so we were all up by 7. I had to be at the band fundraiser by 8:45. It was 9:30 before I got home, and since my van was full of greenery (the first of many trips) I needed to unload it myself. I had an appointment at 11, then ran a band errand, grabbed a quick bite to eat, and headed to my actual shift at the fundraiser. I finished with that at 3:30 (with another van load of greenery) and dashed home to get dinner started. Andrew and his parents arrived about ten minutes later. We got dinner started, and Andrew and the kids began cleaning out the van so we could drive it the next day. After dinner Catherine made dessert to take to the family meal, and we mostly just hung out and watched TV. We even spent some time watching Thanksgiving episodes of "Friends" which is a tradition we do every year when we can make it happen.
I went to bed early, but didn't sleep well. In fact, I woke up not feeling well Thursday morning, mostly from sinuses. My in-laws were in no particular hurry to get moving that morning, which was tough for Andrew and I to get ready since there were things we had forgotten to get out of our room the night before. There were lots of little frustrations that occurred, and as we were leaving (later than I had told everyone we needed to leave) I fell. I'd had a bad toe anyway, and it took everything I had not to cry in front of everyone.
I went to bed even earlier Thursday night, but woke up feeling even worse Friday morning. We were having breakfast with Andrew's parents before they all left, but the place we wanted to eat was closed. That meant a big chain restaurant, but I was concerned because I had to get the church payroll submitted. I suggested a different place to eat, but Andrew's parents didn't want to eat there. Of course, the wait for our food was just as outrageous as I was convinced it would be, and the ONLY thing I was able to accomplish at church was the payroll. I would have been able to get a little more done, but Andrew locked himself out of the house as he was trying to leave with Thomas to take his parents home, and I had to run home and let him in before doing my afternoon shift at the band fundraiser. Because it was the last shift, all of the greenery that hadn't been picked up had to be loaded into my van and brought home. Another parent who volunteered with me is a packing genius, and although the van was packed to the brim, I got it all home in one trip. Of course since Andrew and Thomas had left, that meant I was unloading it on my own. I had to get all the bedsheets changed again so Catherine could sleep in her bed (where we sleep when my in-laws are here) and I could sleep in my bed, but I was able to meet some friends for a quick drink before Catherine and I tumbled into bed early again.
Catherine had to work all day Saturday, and I had to make some band deliveries. I was able to be home by the time Ohio State kicked off, but since I had awakened feeling poorly again I didn't get nearly as much done as I had wanted. The only chance we were going to have to decorate the tree together was Saturday evening, and I needed to have the trees ready before that. However, I couldn't put the living room tree up before the train platform was down, and I didn't even know where that was. Andrew and Thomas left his parents 90 minutes later than I had expected them to, and I needed them for the platform. I was able to get the first tree put together and was putting lights on it while the platform was put together. Unfortunately, I realized that most of the lights had stopped working form the year before, so we needed to purchase new. Catherine got off work an hour early, so she joined the guys in a "quick" trip to get more lights...which took a ridiculous amount of time. When they got back, I realized Andrew had purchased the wrong lights, but he needed to pick up the pizza we ordered. I ran back to exchange the lights while Andrew got the pizza. When I got home I realized I these lights weren't right either, and also realized that Andrew had put mushrooms on the entire pizza. I don't eat mushrooms...never have in all of our married lives. Can't do it. He is aware of this, and it meant I had no pizza for dinner. At this point I really wanted to cry, but I had to get back to exchange the lights...again. I finally put the lights on and we finally started with the ornaments after 9:30 that night. None of us really felt like doing it, but Catherine had to work all day Sunday so it was our only shot at doing it together. Poor Catherine was so tired she just wanted to go to bed. We were all very tired, and instead of fun memories, it was just tiring work.
We couldn't wait until this weekend though, because Thomas and Andrew are headed back to Pittsburgh again. I know that overall life is very much blessed, but this was definitely not the break any of us were hoping it would be. I knew things would be different than the last several years, but I didn't expect it to be so exhausting. On the upside, the house is almost decorated, and the band fundraiser is beginning to wrap up!
The rest of the holiday though, was a little rough. The kids had swim Tuesday evening, and I was working frantically trying to get the house picked up. In fact, I worked until 10:00 that evening, and the kids were helping also. I ended up sleeping on the couch because that way I could go ahead and change the sheets on our bed because I was fairly certain I wouldn't have time on Wednesday...and I would've been correct!
The kids had swim first thing Wednesday morning so we were all up by 7. I had to be at the band fundraiser by 8:45. It was 9:30 before I got home, and since my van was full of greenery (the first of many trips) I needed to unload it myself. I had an appointment at 11, then ran a band errand, grabbed a quick bite to eat, and headed to my actual shift at the fundraiser. I finished with that at 3:30 (with another van load of greenery) and dashed home to get dinner started. Andrew and his parents arrived about ten minutes later. We got dinner started, and Andrew and the kids began cleaning out the van so we could drive it the next day. After dinner Catherine made dessert to take to the family meal, and we mostly just hung out and watched TV. We even spent some time watching Thanksgiving episodes of "Friends" which is a tradition we do every year when we can make it happen.
I went to bed early, but didn't sleep well. In fact, I woke up not feeling well Thursday morning, mostly from sinuses. My in-laws were in no particular hurry to get moving that morning, which was tough for Andrew and I to get ready since there were things we had forgotten to get out of our room the night before. There were lots of little frustrations that occurred, and as we were leaving (later than I had told everyone we needed to leave) I fell. I'd had a bad toe anyway, and it took everything I had not to cry in front of everyone.
I went to bed even earlier Thursday night, but woke up feeling even worse Friday morning. We were having breakfast with Andrew's parents before they all left, but the place we wanted to eat was closed. That meant a big chain restaurant, but I was concerned because I had to get the church payroll submitted. I suggested a different place to eat, but Andrew's parents didn't want to eat there. Of course, the wait for our food was just as outrageous as I was convinced it would be, and the ONLY thing I was able to accomplish at church was the payroll. I would have been able to get a little more done, but Andrew locked himself out of the house as he was trying to leave with Thomas to take his parents home, and I had to run home and let him in before doing my afternoon shift at the band fundraiser. Because it was the last shift, all of the greenery that hadn't been picked up had to be loaded into my van and brought home. Another parent who volunteered with me is a packing genius, and although the van was packed to the brim, I got it all home in one trip. Of course since Andrew and Thomas had left, that meant I was unloading it on my own. I had to get all the bedsheets changed again so Catherine could sleep in her bed (where we sleep when my in-laws are here) and I could sleep in my bed, but I was able to meet some friends for a quick drink before Catherine and I tumbled into bed early again.
Catherine had to work all day Saturday, and I had to make some band deliveries. I was able to be home by the time Ohio State kicked off, but since I had awakened feeling poorly again I didn't get nearly as much done as I had wanted. The only chance we were going to have to decorate the tree together was Saturday evening, and I needed to have the trees ready before that. However, I couldn't put the living room tree up before the train platform was down, and I didn't even know where that was. Andrew and Thomas left his parents 90 minutes later than I had expected them to, and I needed them for the platform. I was able to get the first tree put together and was putting lights on it while the platform was put together. Unfortunately, I realized that most of the lights had stopped working form the year before, so we needed to purchase new. Catherine got off work an hour early, so she joined the guys in a "quick" trip to get more lights...which took a ridiculous amount of time. When they got back, I realized Andrew had purchased the wrong lights, but he needed to pick up the pizza we ordered. I ran back to exchange the lights while Andrew got the pizza. When I got home I realized I these lights weren't right either, and also realized that Andrew had put mushrooms on the entire pizza. I don't eat mushrooms...never have in all of our married lives. Can't do it. He is aware of this, and it meant I had no pizza for dinner. At this point I really wanted to cry, but I had to get back to exchange the lights...again. I finally put the lights on and we finally started with the ornaments after 9:30 that night. None of us really felt like doing it, but Catherine had to work all day Sunday so it was our only shot at doing it together. Poor Catherine was so tired she just wanted to go to bed. We were all very tired, and instead of fun memories, it was just tiring work.
We couldn't wait until this weekend though, because Thomas and Andrew are headed back to Pittsburgh again. I know that overall life is very much blessed, but this was definitely not the break any of us were hoping it would be. I knew things would be different than the last several years, but I didn't expect it to be so exhausting. On the upside, the house is almost decorated, and the band fundraiser is beginning to wrap up!
Tuesday, November 20, 2018
Remembering to keep it all in perspective
Just 4-1/2 hours until school is finished and we are out until Monday. I'll be honest, while I accept the changes to our holiday this year, inside my head I've been lamenting things a little. For instance, I don't love the fact that Andrew will be making two trips to PA to retrieve and return his parents for the holiday, nor do I love the fact that I have to spend several hours on Wednesday and Friday working at the rescheduled band fundraiser. I also don't love the fact that Catherine has to work two eight-hour shifts this weekend. I accept it all, but I don't love it.
As a reminder though, my kids are all healthy and happy. A family in town has a young son whose leukemia has relapsed. He is currently preparing for a bone marrow transplant and is spending several weeks, this holiday included, in the hospital. He is transported twice a day from the Children's hospital to another hospital for full body radiation treatments. This young man is eight-years-old. He has already been through so much. His parents are both from very large families, and I'm sure they really wish they would be spending their day similar to mine. Instead, they will be sitting with their young son who is in the process of fighting for his life.
It really helps to keep things in perspective for me. I may not have as much relaxing time or as much family togetherness, and Robert may not be here, but overall my family is extremely blessed in more ways than I can count!
Monday, November 19, 2018
I literally put it on the calendar
I completely understand and accept that things are different with the holidays this year. We certainly can't ignore this. Between the death of my brother-in-law and the absence of our sailor, there is no denying it. I get it. However, there are certain things that I still want to do with the four of us at home. After all, Thomas is only 14 and we are going to enjoy ourselves.
I've mentioned on several occasions that I love decorating our Christmas tree. Most of the decorating is left to me, but hanging the ornaments is something we do together. I've told Robert we will still be hanging his ornaments on the tree (although with him missing, things may be hung a lot lower than in the past), and I really look forward to it. I knew this year finding time could be more challenging. I learned years ago that trying to decorate with my in-laws around is not something that works very well. Andrew will be leaving Friday afternoon to take them back to their home. I have to work at our band fundraiser Friday afternoon (re-scheduled from this past weekend) and since Andrew is out of town, I made plans with friends that evening. Andrew will be back sometime Saturday afternoon, but Catherine has to work 11-7 on Saturday. She is working the same hours on Sunday, and the Thomas has youth group Sunday evening. Swim practices are all of next week, so Saturday evening will be tree decorating! And in case anyone thinks that we don't have plans at that time and they want to make other plans, I've made it very clear...it is on the calendar. We have plans, and I don't care that it doesn't involve anyone else. Our calendar is filled for that time slot!
I've mentioned on several occasions that I love decorating our Christmas tree. Most of the decorating is left to me, but hanging the ornaments is something we do together. I've told Robert we will still be hanging his ornaments on the tree (although with him missing, things may be hung a lot lower than in the past), and I really look forward to it. I knew this year finding time could be more challenging. I learned years ago that trying to decorate with my in-laws around is not something that works very well. Andrew will be leaving Friday afternoon to take them back to their home. I have to work at our band fundraiser Friday afternoon (re-scheduled from this past weekend) and since Andrew is out of town, I made plans with friends that evening. Andrew will be back sometime Saturday afternoon, but Catherine has to work 11-7 on Saturday. She is working the same hours on Sunday, and the Thomas has youth group Sunday evening. Swim practices are all of next week, so Saturday evening will be tree decorating! And in case anyone thinks that we don't have plans at that time and they want to make other plans, I've made it very clear...it is on the calendar. We have plans, and I don't care that it doesn't involve anyone else. Our calendar is filled for that time slot!
My favorite Monday of the school year
If I have to be in school on a Monday (and on 34 Mondays of the year, it is a school day) this is my absolute favorite one of the year. As I tell everyone, it's already like it's Thursday! Not only is it only a two-day school week, but then we get to celebrate Thanksgiving, which is my favorite holiday of the year. Andrew's parents will be here, and we will spend the holiday with my mom's side at my aunt & uncle's house. Overall, this is pretty much my favorite week of the year, and I am so incredibly grateful!
She's already been pulled over
Catherine texted us as she was leaving work to let us know that she was on her way home. A couple of minutes later I checked our app on our phone and knew she would be home very soon. About that time I received a text from her that she would be later than expected because she had been pulled over. Ugh!!!! I couldn't imagine what my super cautious girl had done! She arrived home very shortly later, which I assumed meant there was no citation involved.
I was correct! It turns out she had only turned on the parking lights and didn't have her headlights on. She was accustomed to driving her dad's car while she was practicing, but will mostly drive our very old car now that she has her license. Because of this, she wasn't certain how to turn on the lights. We all kind of laughed about it, and it's a lesson learned by her! We are sure that the officer who pulled her over chuckled, at least inwardly if not outwardly, when she handled him her paper (in our state our licenses are mailed about a week later) indicating she was a new driver.
I think a friend best summed up parent's feelings about a new driver, "It's a new level of parental freedom, and a new level of parental terror." Very well said.
I was correct! It turns out she had only turned on the parking lights and didn't have her headlights on. She was accustomed to driving her dad's car while she was practicing, but will mostly drive our very old car now that she has her license. Because of this, she wasn't certain how to turn on the lights. We all kind of laughed about it, and it's a lesson learned by her! We are sure that the officer who pulled her over chuckled, at least inwardly if not outwardly, when she handled him her paper (in our state our licenses are mailed about a week later) indicating she was a new driver.
I think a friend best summed up parent's feelings about a new driver, "It's a new level of parental freedom, and a new level of parental terror." Very well said.
Saturday, November 17, 2018
Ice storm
In all of the chaos of the week (and we had PLENTY), I neglected to write more about Thursday morning's ice storm. We loved the extra two hours we were able to sleep in, but we didn't love the other consequences of the storm...like the power outage. We had received word around Noon that day that our home mostly likely had now power, and we arrived home to a cold house. We were very grateful that it actually only ended up being out about five hours. We were lucky. My aunt & uncle were out overnight. It really gives new appreciation for electricity and all the things we use it for!
We have a licensed driver!
Catherine can drive on her own! It is awesome...and terrifying. I literally wanted to vomit when she left for work today. I am very happy for her though. And honestly, it is delightful to have a driver who I am pretty sure is actually going where she says she is going! My sweet girl is really amazing.
Friday, November 16, 2018
It's a little ridiculous
So much for Catherine getting her license yesterday! It wasn't a problem getting her the temporary permit...they handled that. And it wasn't because she failed the test...that wasn't it either. Nope, it was simply that there was some sort of miscommunication at the time Andrew made the appointment and it is actually today. Ugh.
It is our week though. Things have been a hassle this week. For instance, Andrew texted me that Thomas needs to stay after school and finish his science test. Ninety-five out of one hundred times this wouldn't be an issue. Except of course, for the fact that Andrew needs to take Catherine to take her driving test. It would almost never be a problem for me either, except that this is one evening that I need to go teach at the agency. I only do this 3-4 times a year at most, but tonight is one. Because it is starting earlier than normal, I don't have a lot of extra time after school today. We will figure out how to work this out somehow!
It is our week though. Things have been a hassle this week. For instance, Andrew texted me that Thomas needs to stay after school and finish his science test. Ninety-five out of one hundred times this wouldn't be an issue. Except of course, for the fact that Andrew needs to take Catherine to take her driving test. It would almost never be a problem for me either, except that this is one evening that I need to go teach at the agency. I only do this 3-4 times a year at most, but tonight is one. Because it is starting earlier than normal, I don't have a lot of extra time after school today. We will figure out how to work this out somehow!
Appreciating the quiet start to my day
It's been a crazy week. Almost laughably so, except that it's really not funny. 😊
I am in day three of a five day assignment. The teacher had hand surgery and had spoken with me the first day of school about being here for her at this time. The students are awesome. I really enjoy her classes. This teacher has 1st period off, which I don't generally love. However, because her classes are so good throughout the day, I don't really mind either. In fact, this morning, it is particularly appealing. I've been catching up on some things I needed to handle personally, and I was able to get some hot chocolate from the coffee cart. Honestly, for a few minutes, I just sat here and felt so grateful for my life. I'm staring down the beginning of day where it will be about 11:00 before I am home this evening, but I felt such peace and gratitude this morning. It was a lovely feeling to begin this Friday!
I am in day three of a five day assignment. The teacher had hand surgery and had spoken with me the first day of school about being here for her at this time. The students are awesome. I really enjoy her classes. This teacher has 1st period off, which I don't generally love. However, because her classes are so good throughout the day, I don't really mind either. In fact, this morning, it is particularly appealing. I've been catching up on some things I needed to handle personally, and I was able to get some hot chocolate from the coffee cart. Honestly, for a few minutes, I just sat here and felt so grateful for my life. I'm staring down the beginning of day where it will be about 11:00 before I am home this evening, but I felt such peace and gratitude this morning. It was a lovely feeling to begin this Friday!
Thursday, November 15, 2018
We needed that two hours
With everything happening last night, our kids were up much later than the usually are...and I was up even later. I tried really hard to sleep and not think about all of the chaos that occurred in the evening, but that is easier said than done. However, I was also pretty sure based on the forecast of freezing rain and sleet that we were going to be on a school delay this morning. So I justified Thomas's 10:30 bedtime last night as really being like an 8:30 bedtime...at least I hoped that was how it would work out!
The alarm went off this morning, and instantly I was disappointed. However, as Andrew was out of bed turning off the alarm, our call came with a 2 hour delay. Woohoo!!!!!!! That meant not only did we get two extra hours of sleep (give or take), but we got to go to work in daylight. While the ice is not necessarily good, I have to admit it is very lovely. Unfortunately, we just received notification that our power might be out, which kind of goes along with the chaos of yesterday!
The alarm went off this morning, and instantly I was disappointed. However, as Andrew was out of bed turning off the alarm, our call came with a 2 hour delay. Woohoo!!!!!!! That meant not only did we get two extra hours of sleep (give or take), but we got to go to work in daylight. While the ice is not necessarily good, I have to admit it is very lovely. Unfortunately, we just received notification that our power might be out, which kind of goes along with the chaos of yesterday!
Yesterday was particularly craptastic
It has been a long time...a very long time, since I've had a day that was as rotten as yesterday was. And further, it's been an even longer time since a day like this wasn't caused by Robert. He is still off in training though, and our day here at home really stunk.
It all started with the five-year-anniversary of my dad's passing. I was especially emotional about it, but life has to go on. Yesterday after school, Thomas stayed to work on his computer class, and Andrew stayed with him. While I was at home, I learned about some behavior issues with Thomas that I wanted Andrew and I to address with him before he went to his swim work out. We walked into the cafeteria to discuss it, and before I could get started I noticed the janitors were moving out all of the table and chairs. I asked why, and they explained there was an event in the cafeteria that evening. I replied that yes there was, it was our chili supper, and we were definitely going to need tables and chairs for that. It turns out there had been a serious scheduling miscommunication. Thank goodness I had managed to catch that before we got there to set up an hour later and had nothing to work with!
The chili supper ended up being a very nice event... right up until I was cleaning up and managed to lock my keys in my trunk. I knew instantly I had done so, and called home right away to have Andrew bring me another set. During that phone call I learned that Catherine's wallet was missing. They had looked everywhere (they really had...every place I thought to suggest they had already looked, and then some), and the more I learned the more convinced I became that it had been taken out of her bag in the band room. There has been a problem with that. Her debit card hasn't been used, so it might have been someone thinking they were being funny...which they were not. The part that was making her sob is that her learner's permit was in it, and she is scheduled to take her driving test again today (we could use some good thoughts for her to pass) and we were weren't sure that was going to be able to happen. Fortunately Andrew made a phone call today, and it does seem that with some additional paperwork it can still be done.
When I finally got home last night, Andrew and I had a long discussion with Thomas about some of the things that were happening in his life that he may not have even known about. It was a tough conversation, and Andrew and I have to watch how much we disclose about other students. It can be challenging. After that I checked my email...and learned that the wreaths sold by our band that were supposed to arrive this weekend (and for which all the plans had been made) weren't going to be arriving until the middle of next week. AGH!!!!!!! At that point, it was just enough. Nothing could be done about anything at 9:30 at night, and it was just time to sit and have a glass of wine.
On the upside, there is a plan for the wreaths, and it does appear that Catherine can take her test. So as craptastic as last night was, today things are starting to work out.
It all started with the five-year-anniversary of my dad's passing. I was especially emotional about it, but life has to go on. Yesterday after school, Thomas stayed to work on his computer class, and Andrew stayed with him. While I was at home, I learned about some behavior issues with Thomas that I wanted Andrew and I to address with him before he went to his swim work out. We walked into the cafeteria to discuss it, and before I could get started I noticed the janitors were moving out all of the table and chairs. I asked why, and they explained there was an event in the cafeteria that evening. I replied that yes there was, it was our chili supper, and we were definitely going to need tables and chairs for that. It turns out there had been a serious scheduling miscommunication. Thank goodness I had managed to catch that before we got there to set up an hour later and had nothing to work with!
The chili supper ended up being a very nice event... right up until I was cleaning up and managed to lock my keys in my trunk. I knew instantly I had done so, and called home right away to have Andrew bring me another set. During that phone call I learned that Catherine's wallet was missing. They had looked everywhere (they really had...every place I thought to suggest they had already looked, and then some), and the more I learned the more convinced I became that it had been taken out of her bag in the band room. There has been a problem with that. Her debit card hasn't been used, so it might have been someone thinking they were being funny...which they were not. The part that was making her sob is that her learner's permit was in it, and she is scheduled to take her driving test again today (we could use some good thoughts for her to pass) and we were weren't sure that was going to be able to happen. Fortunately Andrew made a phone call today, and it does seem that with some additional paperwork it can still be done.
When I finally got home last night, Andrew and I had a long discussion with Thomas about some of the things that were happening in his life that he may not have even known about. It was a tough conversation, and Andrew and I have to watch how much we disclose about other students. It can be challenging. After that I checked my email...and learned that the wreaths sold by our band that were supposed to arrive this weekend (and for which all the plans had been made) weren't going to be arriving until the middle of next week. AGH!!!!!!! At that point, it was just enough. Nothing could be done about anything at 9:30 at night, and it was just time to sit and have a glass of wine.
On the upside, there is a plan for the wreaths, and it does appear that Catherine can take her test. So as craptastic as last night was, today things are starting to work out.
Wednesday, November 14, 2018
It's another one of those weeks
I was reading a post I wrote exactly one year ago today. I wrote about how ridiculously crazy our week was...and we are definitely having one of those this week again. I know that this is really just for me and my memory, and totally understand if no one else wants to keep reading!
Monday I worked at school. Andrew was committed to helping with the middle school football fundraiser, and that took far longer than expected. I came home after school, but we were only home about an hour before I had to get the kids to work outs. I then ran some band errands, then went back to to get the kids from work out and to swim practice. I was home about an hour before I had to head up to the marching band awards. My kids weren't there because of swim, but I had all of the necessary paper products. When I left I called Andrew because he needed to pick up the van that had been left at the middle school. By the time I did that, it was time to get the kids picked up from swim, then I went home and did a little bit of band work. I had hoped to be in bed early, but life gets in the way!
Yesterday I was only scheduled to work in the morning at school. When I got here they asked me to stay all day. It was a teacher I like and I hate to turn down an opportunity for income. I ended up staying later even than the end of the day, as there was a student testing who wasn't finished when the final bell rang. The kids both had meetings after school, and then Andrew helped Catherine work on her maneuverability for tomorrow's driving test. The kids were able to be home about an hour, and then I took them to swim practice. Andrew had a church council meeting, and he picked them up on his way home. I was able to get three loads of laundry done, and tons of band stuff accomplished.
Today I am at school all work, and have to do MORE band errands after school. The kids will have swim workout and then go straight to practice. I have to be back at school at 5:00 to set up for our chili dinner fundraiser, and I am hoping Andrew will join me after he gets the kids from workout to practice. He'll need to get the kids from swim practice, and I hope to be home by 9:00.
Tomorrow is another all day at school, and Andrew will take Catherine to her driving test right after school. The kids have swim in the evening, and I will try to get to church and do my job there, and also get to the grocery. It's a pretty light day overall.
I'll be back at the school all day on Friday, then need to leave right after school to head north to teach at the agency. They agreed to start class an hour earlier than normal, so hopefully I'll be home between 10 & 10:30 that night. Andrew will need to get the kids to work out at 4, then from there to swim, and pick them up again at the end (unless Catherine passes the driving test!).
I need to be up and at our next band fundraiser by 8:30 Saturday morning. Catherine has to work at 11, and I'll be done with the fundraiser around 1:00. Catherine works until 7, and we might actually get to spend some time hanging out as a family that evening...or more likely picking up the house!
I'm not sure if we are going to church Sunday morning because Catherine works again at 11, and I have to be at the final day of the band fundraiser at 11:30. Thomas will arrive at 2:00 to do his shift, and we are both finished at 4. I'll have to finish wrapping things up, and Thomas and Andrew might be able to head to the Family Advent activity at church from 4-6. Thomas also has youth group that evening from 6-8, and Catherine will need picked up at 7...and then next week arrives.
I'm tired. We are all tired. Swimming is a wonderful activity for the kids, but oh goodness. It is definitely a time commitment. I'm so grateful for all of the opportunities, because honestly, that's what these are. We aren't worrying about food on the table or a roof over our head, but it is crazy busy!
Monday I worked at school. Andrew was committed to helping with the middle school football fundraiser, and that took far longer than expected. I came home after school, but we were only home about an hour before I had to get the kids to work outs. I then ran some band errands, then went back to to get the kids from work out and to swim practice. I was home about an hour before I had to head up to the marching band awards. My kids weren't there because of swim, but I had all of the necessary paper products. When I left I called Andrew because he needed to pick up the van that had been left at the middle school. By the time I did that, it was time to get the kids picked up from swim, then I went home and did a little bit of band work. I had hoped to be in bed early, but life gets in the way!
Yesterday I was only scheduled to work in the morning at school. When I got here they asked me to stay all day. It was a teacher I like and I hate to turn down an opportunity for income. I ended up staying later even than the end of the day, as there was a student testing who wasn't finished when the final bell rang. The kids both had meetings after school, and then Andrew helped Catherine work on her maneuverability for tomorrow's driving test. The kids were able to be home about an hour, and then I took them to swim practice. Andrew had a church council meeting, and he picked them up on his way home. I was able to get three loads of laundry done, and tons of band stuff accomplished.
Today I am at school all work, and have to do MORE band errands after school. The kids will have swim workout and then go straight to practice. I have to be back at school at 5:00 to set up for our chili dinner fundraiser, and I am hoping Andrew will join me after he gets the kids from workout to practice. He'll need to get the kids from swim practice, and I hope to be home by 9:00.
Tomorrow is another all day at school, and Andrew will take Catherine to her driving test right after school. The kids have swim in the evening, and I will try to get to church and do my job there, and also get to the grocery. It's a pretty light day overall.
I'll be back at the school all day on Friday, then need to leave right after school to head north to teach at the agency. They agreed to start class an hour earlier than normal, so hopefully I'll be home between 10 & 10:30 that night. Andrew will need to get the kids to work out at 4, then from there to swim, and pick them up again at the end (unless Catherine passes the driving test!).
I need to be up and at our next band fundraiser by 8:30 Saturday morning. Catherine has to work at 11, and I'll be done with the fundraiser around 1:00. Catherine works until 7, and we might actually get to spend some time hanging out as a family that evening...or more likely picking up the house!
I'm not sure if we are going to church Sunday morning because Catherine works again at 11, and I have to be at the final day of the band fundraiser at 11:30. Thomas will arrive at 2:00 to do his shift, and we are both finished at 4. I'll have to finish wrapping things up, and Thomas and Andrew might be able to head to the Family Advent activity at church from 4-6. Thomas also has youth group that evening from 6-8, and Catherine will need picked up at 7...and then next week arrives.
I'm tired. We are all tired. Swimming is a wonderful activity for the kids, but oh goodness. It is definitely a time commitment. I'm so grateful for all of the opportunities, because honestly, that's what these are. We aren't worrying about food on the table or a roof over our head, but it is crazy busy!
My dad has been gone five years
I'll never forget the phone call telling me my dad was gone. In spite of having been ill for 17 years, it was such a shock. I had talked to my mom earlier that day, and she told me what a great day my dad had been having, and that he had been up and moving around more than he had in quite some time. I'll always be grateful his last day on Earth was spent that way. I'm grateful he didn't die in a hospital, and I'm grateful there was never the decision about having to put him in a nursing facility. These are all blessings.
Five years is hitting me like a ton of bricks though. Five years. Five years. How did five years go by so quickly? It isn't just about missing my dad. It's that there are five fewer years left in my life, and the lives of everyone I know. I recognize that is overly dramatic. But five years ago, I didn't have any kids in high school and my youngest was in fourth grade. Now, my youngest is in high school and my oldest has flown the nest. With schedules, it's often tough to find time even for the four of us to just hang out and do family things. In another five years, none of my children will be students here anymore, and Catherine could be nearing the end of her schooling altogether.
I'm super emotional about all of this, I'm not going to lie. I don't like the fact that there has been five years of memories...five years of full days without my dad. I know that time marches on, but right now I feel like it is marching right across my heart.
Five years is hitting me like a ton of bricks though. Five years. Five years. How did five years go by so quickly? It isn't just about missing my dad. It's that there are five fewer years left in my life, and the lives of everyone I know. I recognize that is overly dramatic. But five years ago, I didn't have any kids in high school and my youngest was in fourth grade. Now, my youngest is in high school and my oldest has flown the nest. With schedules, it's often tough to find time even for the four of us to just hang out and do family things. In another five years, none of my children will be students here anymore, and Catherine could be nearing the end of her schooling altogether.
I'm super emotional about all of this, I'm not going to lie. I don't like the fact that there has been five years of memories...five years of full days without my dad. I know that time marches on, but right now I feel like it is marching right across my heart.
Tuesday, November 13, 2018
I really loved our weekend
Our weekend was really fabulous...but as always too short! With the kids on the band trip Friday, Andrew and I had the afternoon and early evening to ourselves...no transportation to swim needed. We decided to run to do some quick Christmas shopping, and then enjoy a dinner out. That has become our Friday night routine, although we normally stay in town in between running kids. We didn't have to this time, and especially enjoyed the fact that we had a gift card to use. In fact, while we were at dinner we realized the restaurant had $5 take out that was easily reheated, and that meant we had a good dinner for the kids as well. Bonus!
Andrew picked the kids up and everyone was home by 8:00 Friday evening. I remember walking into my kitchen at that time to pour myself a glass of wine, and thinking how I was pretty sure that was the very best moment of the weekend. It was Friday, still had the entire weekend in front of us, and we were all home and going to enjoy some family time. We watched several episodes of Modern Family, and listened to the kids share their excitement and memories from their day. It was an awesome beginning to our weekend.
Saturday we got to sleep in...another wonderful part to our weekend! Catherine had to be at work early afternoon, and the rest of us spent the day cleaning the house. Our dear friends came from out of town, and we enjoyed the visit.
Sunday we went to church, and Catherine worked again. I made a quick trip to my hometown, then came home and worked on band work. Andrew had made a fire in the fireplace, and worked on school work. Thomas had youth group that evening and I had to run some band errands, and then, as much as we might want to avoid it, it was time to start another crazy week.
Andrew picked the kids up and everyone was home by 8:00 Friday evening. I remember walking into my kitchen at that time to pour myself a glass of wine, and thinking how I was pretty sure that was the very best moment of the weekend. It was Friday, still had the entire weekend in front of us, and we were all home and going to enjoy some family time. We watched several episodes of Modern Family, and listened to the kids share their excitement and memories from their day. It was an awesome beginning to our weekend.
Saturday we got to sleep in...another wonderful part to our weekend! Catherine had to be at work early afternoon, and the rest of us spent the day cleaning the house. Our dear friends came from out of town, and we enjoyed the visit.
Sunday we went to church, and Catherine worked again. I made a quick trip to my hometown, then came home and worked on band work. Andrew had made a fire in the fireplace, and worked on school work. Thomas had youth group that evening and I had to run some band errands, and then, as much as we might want to avoid it, it was time to start another crazy week.
Monday, November 12, 2018
Ornaments
My favorite part of decorating for Christmas is hanging the Christmas ornaments. More specifically, it is unwrapping the ornaments each year. Some of them are from my childhood or from Andrew's childhood, and we cherish those. Some of them are from trips our family has taken together and we love those as well. My favorite though, are often the ornaments that belong to our children. Many of them represent interests or activities they've had during the year, and many of them are from special loved ones who are no longer with us. I remember that in 2008, all seven of my grandmother's great-grandchildren went to Disney World, and my grandmother cross-stitched each of them a Disney-themed ornament. Robert got Mickey Mouse, Catherine received Belle, and Thomas's was Lightning McQueen. I made sure last year that the ornament Thomas received from us was football, because I knew that was a one & done activity. Whenever possible, the year and giver are written on the ornament, and if that isn't possible I try to include it on the box (if it came in one). This year because Robert is still in training, he doesn't have his own tree, so I am planning to still hang his ornaments on our tree. When we take them down though, I will be packing them separately in their own box so that he can have them next year if that works for him. I will miss unwrapping and looking at those ornaments throughout the season. Would it be too neurotic to take a picture of each one???
I cried again this year
I was able to attend the Veteran's Day program at our school again today. In fact I am subbing for the teacher who is in charge of putting on the event. It is, without a doubt, my favorite assembly that we have each year. I am always blown away by the respect shown by the students. My tears pretty much began first thing. Our neighbor is part of the sheriff's office color guard that presents our country's flag. Immediately the students were silent, and my eyes filled with tears. I then cried throughout the entire Star Spangled Banner. I couldn't help but think of my son, and honestly, how much I wished he was here. For everything he has put us through, he has made a mature decision, and is making a sacrifice to serve our country. Andrew had come over to stand with me, and I'm grateful that he did. It was just nice having him there. I became somewhat emotional as the veterans were introduced also, especially as last year's speaker, and our friend, Kyle was introduced. I don't know where we would be without his advice in the last year! I'm so grateful to all the veteran's for helping to serve and protect this great country in which we live!
Sunday, November 11, 2018
Veteran's Day
Today is Veteran's Day, and is the 100th anniversary of the ending of WWI. This year is definitely a new perspective. While Andrew's father was a Marine, my family has very little military experience except for my grandfather in WWII, and a great-uncle in the Korean War. Now though, my son is serving. I'll be honest, the day has made me emotional. Our pastor, who is very emotional, became choked up while speaking about Robert from the altar, and I can't ever let anyone cry alone! The songs have made me tear up, and it's just a completely different perspective for me. I feel like I really get it for the first time, and I also know that I don't completely get it. I have not yet had to deal with Robert facing imminent danger, but that will most likely be in our future. I am so very proud of Robert, and I'm grateful to the military for another reason. I am grateful to our military for making men out of the boys who join. I know many are like Robert, and I can't imagine where he would be without the discipline and structure of the military. I'm so grateful for it all!
Saturday, November 10, 2018
Five years since I've heard my dad's voice
It is so hard to believe it's been five years since I've heard my dad's voice. All through my life, the five-year mark has always been a tough one, regardless of what sadness or tough event I was remembering. I just can't believe it's been five years since I spoke to him. He called me from the hospital while the kids and I were with Mom at a cat show. I'm so grateful he is no longer suffering, but I sure do miss him.
Friday, November 9, 2018
I am ridiculously emotional
I'll be honest, I'm a little bit of an emotional wreck. I know part of it is that it is Friday and I'm pretty tired. I'm sure part of it is also that we are within a week of the five-year-anniversary of my dad's passing. And my hormones must be way out of whack because I feel ridiculous about things. I woke up with the beginnings of a migraine this morning, and it was a very frustrating morning in my house. I began crying, and my emotions just don't seem to have settled since then.
Our school has a cross-country runner that qualified for the state race being held tomorrow. She is an absolutely lovely young lady in every way. I had her in class right before lunch and gave her my best wishes then. They just called all the students and staff into the hallways to cheer her off as she leaves. This should not be a cause for tears! I know cross country can make me emotional anyway, but good grief!
Our school has a cross-country runner that qualified for the state race being held tomorrow. She is an absolutely lovely young lady in every way. I had her in class right before lunch and gave her my best wishes then. They just called all the students and staff into the hallways to cheer her off as she leaves. This should not be a cause for tears! I know cross country can make me emotional anyway, but good grief!
Band trip
The kids are on an all day band trip today. They came to school as normal, but then won't be back until about 8:00 this evening. Andrew and I are hoping to take the evening and get some shopping out, then grab dinner. Our Friday evening routine since home football games ended (and Andrew had to be there) has been to have dinner together. Working makes it possible.
Anyway, the kids have been excited about this trip for weeks. Honestly, for the adults, it is kind of a pain. It is a huge amount of work, and we are "competing" against bands that have far larger budgets, and much bigger expectations. The directors don't particularly want to go, but a prominent community member basically insisted it needed to happen, and even raised the money to make it financially possible. I was kind of rolling my eyes about the whole thing, but I am glad that my kids are happy about it, and I'm grateful that they will have the opportunity to perform again. We watched them at the community performance last night, and I was pretty impressed with them overall!
Anyway, the kids have been excited about this trip for weeks. Honestly, for the adults, it is kind of a pain. It is a huge amount of work, and we are "competing" against bands that have far larger budgets, and much bigger expectations. The directors don't particularly want to go, but a prominent community member basically insisted it needed to happen, and even raised the money to make it financially possible. I was kind of rolling my eyes about the whole thing, but I am glad that my kids are happy about it, and I'm grateful that they will have the opportunity to perform again. We watched them at the community performance last night, and I was pretty impressed with them overall!
It's kind of ironic
Today I am subbing in what would have been called a Home Ec classroom. There is a personal wellness class, and the rest of the classes are kitchen based. It's a little ironic that I would sub in these classes. Most of these kids can probably get around in a kitchen far better than I can! So far this morning I've watched a movie about using knives, and then watched one on nutrients and minerals. None of these are things I'm very good about...and yet here I am!
Thursday, November 8, 2018
Rural country roads
Last week, on one of my days off, I made a trip over to Indiana to do some shopping. It was a cloudy day, and the drive was about 45 minutes. I absolutely loved it. While it would have been even more gorgeous if the sun had been shining, even a cloudy day in the fall...over rural farmland...it doesn't get much prettier (except for maybe that sun).
Honestly, it really doesn't matter what time of year it is...driving through rural farmland is, to me, one of the most peaceful experiences on earth. I can remember driving through farmland one time and literally feeling the stress escape. It's amazing to me. I know there are many people who need the lights and sounds and excitements of the city to feel alive. Not me. I love the quiet and peacefulness that empty roads can bring!
Honestly, it really doesn't matter what time of year it is...driving through rural farmland is, to me, one of the most peaceful experiences on earth. I can remember driving through farmland one time and literally feeling the stress escape. It's amazing to me. I know there are many people who need the lights and sounds and excitements of the city to feel alive. Not me. I love the quiet and peacefulness that empty roads can bring!
Almost at the end
Tomorrow is the last marching band performance for the year. The season is seventeen weeks long, and I think we are all ready for it to come to an end. It was a good experience overall for Thomas. For Catherine, I think it is mostly good. She struggles socially, and while she has really good friends in band, there are also some students who aren't very nice to her. I know part of it is that there are some meanies out there, but part of it is her own demeanor and how she chooses to interact with people. Anyway, tomorrow the marching season comes to an end.
And the next season actually began two weeks ago...so no down time. Our laundry loads are about to increase dramatically with two swimmers using towels. It's also weird because Andrew and I have a lot of quiet time together when they are gone.
So almost at the end...but a new beginning!
And the next season actually began two weeks ago...so no down time. Our laundry loads are about to increase dramatically with two swimmers using towels. It's also weird because Andrew and I have a lot of quiet time together when they are gone.
So almost at the end...but a new beginning!
Wednesday, November 7, 2018
I miss reading newspapers
Pretty much from the time I moved out on my own, I had a subscription to the daily newspaper. I grew up in a house that subscribed to two daily newspapers, one in the morning, and one in the evening. I have always looked forward to reading my newspapers. Once I became a stay-at-home mom, I developed a very specific routine to my newspapers in terms of how I would read them. And when I was on vacation, I always came home and read in the order in which they were delivered. It's what I did.
The price however, had become almost out of control. The monthly subscription price had more than doubled in the last five years, and as Andrew and I looked at cutting expenses, it seemed an easy one. I was hoping we could still get a Sunday paper, but even delivery of just that was a ridiculous cost. We finally settled on just a digital subscription. I still think the price is obscene for what I am getting, but we still wanted to be able to get local news. In early June, we became digital only subscribers. I told Andrew I was pretty sure by the end of the summer we would cancel even that because I wouldn't be reading it.
For the most part, I am right. More days than not I don't read the newspaper. I never worry about reading it in order anymore, and I skip much more than I used to because sometimes it is days old when I read it. Andrew is still very dedicated to reading the front (national news) section each morning, but only that. I miss holding the newspaper and really reading it, and I miss getting to do my puzzles at the end of day.
The price however, had become almost out of control. The monthly subscription price had more than doubled in the last five years, and as Andrew and I looked at cutting expenses, it seemed an easy one. I was hoping we could still get a Sunday paper, but even delivery of just that was a ridiculous cost. We finally settled on just a digital subscription. I still think the price is obscene for what I am getting, but we still wanted to be able to get local news. In early June, we became digital only subscribers. I told Andrew I was pretty sure by the end of the summer we would cancel even that because I wouldn't be reading it.
For the most part, I am right. More days than not I don't read the newspaper. I never worry about reading it in order anymore, and I skip much more than I used to because sometimes it is days old when I read it. Andrew is still very dedicated to reading the front (national news) section each morning, but only that. I miss holding the newspaper and really reading it, and I miss getting to do my puzzles at the end of day.
Monday, November 5, 2018
Mini-vacation
I did end up being off Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday. It was really, really awesome. I had to pass up some jobs on Friday, but it was important to me to be at Catherine's honor roll ceremony. So by Thursday morning, I knew I wasn't going back to work until today, and it felt so freeing. I didn't feel guilty about it either, because I knew I was already scheduled every day this week (there is no school tomorrow), every day except Tuesday (so far) next week, and both the Monday and Tuesday before Thanksgiving. Plenty of days scheduled, so I allowed myself to really enjoy the days off. Not only was it three days in a week, but three consecutive days leading into the weekend. It honestly felt like a mini-vacation.
I was able to get a lot accomplished. Wednesday I mostly spent the day at home working around the house. Catherine had to work after school, but was home before Beggar's Night ended. It was predicted to be monsoon like, but there was actually no rain. Thomas spent most of the evening on the porch to hand out candy, and the kids dressed Abby in a pumpkin sweater. Because it was Halloween, the kids had the evening off from swim. It was wonderful!
On Thursday I tackled a boat load of errands. Most of them were Christmas shopping though, so I didn't mind terribly. The kids had band practice that evening, and I worked at the church while they were there. Friday I headed to Indiana after Catherine's ceremony for some more shopping. I was home by mid-afternoon. Andrew took Catherine for another attempt at her driving test. She was able to pass the driving, but failed the maneuverability. She took it in better stride this time, but if she doesn't pass it next week when she tries again, she may not be able to get it (by law) until the end of the school year. That is not exactly what I'm going for! While the kids were at swim that evening, Andrew and I grabbed some dinner out. We've decided we might make this our Friday evening routine during swim season. It is nice to be working again and not feel guilty about spending money on things like that.
Saturday we traveled north to grab lunch with my mom and grandmothers. It is such a blessing to be able to do that. On the way home, se drove through our former town where they were having a craft show. We didn't find anything we couldn't live without, but we did get to see many old friends. Our hearts will always be in that town. That evening Andrew went to a football game with a friend, and then yesterday was a typical Sunday. Catherine worked and we watched a Steelers victory while getting things done. I also did some texting with Robert, and it was so nice to hear from him!
It was really a wonderful little mini-vacation for me. I almost feel refreshed!
I was able to get a lot accomplished. Wednesday I mostly spent the day at home working around the house. Catherine had to work after school, but was home before Beggar's Night ended. It was predicted to be monsoon like, but there was actually no rain. Thomas spent most of the evening on the porch to hand out candy, and the kids dressed Abby in a pumpkin sweater. Because it was Halloween, the kids had the evening off from swim. It was wonderful!
On Thursday I tackled a boat load of errands. Most of them were Christmas shopping though, so I didn't mind terribly. The kids had band practice that evening, and I worked at the church while they were there. Friday I headed to Indiana after Catherine's ceremony for some more shopping. I was home by mid-afternoon. Andrew took Catherine for another attempt at her driving test. She was able to pass the driving, but failed the maneuverability. She took it in better stride this time, but if she doesn't pass it next week when she tries again, she may not be able to get it (by law) until the end of the school year. That is not exactly what I'm going for! While the kids were at swim that evening, Andrew and I grabbed some dinner out. We've decided we might make this our Friday evening routine during swim season. It is nice to be working again and not feel guilty about spending money on things like that.
Saturday we traveled north to grab lunch with my mom and grandmothers. It is such a blessing to be able to do that. On the way home, se drove through our former town where they were having a craft show. We didn't find anything we couldn't live without, but we did get to see many old friends. Our hearts will always be in that town. That evening Andrew went to a football game with a friend, and then yesterday was a typical Sunday. Catherine worked and we watched a Steelers victory while getting things done. I also did some texting with Robert, and it was so nice to hear from him!
It was really a wonderful little mini-vacation for me. I almost feel refreshed!
Saturday, November 3, 2018
It just keeps getting worse.
Last spring, our family was horrified to learn of the arrest of someone we knew from our former town. He was accused of a relationship with a minor. Thomas had been good friends with this man's daughter, he was Catherine's first soccer coach, Andrew and I had been to their house for social events, and they had our boys one time when Catherine had to be taken to the hospital. I just kept thinking it couldn't be true and there had to be some explanation that would make it all not true. In early summer, I learned the identity of the girl, and she was a classmate of Thomas's...and they had made their First Communions together. The man finally went to trial this week. First we learned that he admitted they had contact but nothing had really happened. Then we learned that when the young lady's family found out, they offered not to press charges as long as he promised to resign his coaching position. After the family confiscated her phone, this man sent the young lady another phone so they couldn't continue to communicate. I thought all of this was bad enough, but it got worse still. During a lunch break after taking the stand in his own defense, this man somehow managed to disable his ankle monitor (he was out on bond), and left. It's been three days, and his whereabouts are still unknown. In the meantime, he has been found guilty, but sentencing is delayed until he is located.
Yesterday was his wife's birthday. Wishing her "happy birthday" seemed absolutely ridiculous. There is absolutely nothing "happy" about yesterday, or probably most of the last six months for that fact. We texted back and forth for a bit, and honestly, it brought me to tears. This woman and her kids are being so strong and brave, and my heart just breaks for them. While I certainly didn't discuss this with her, for many of us who know them, our biggest concern is whether or not this man is still alive. His mental state is clearly questionable, and I just can't imagine his family having to go through that on top of everything else. Honestly, I am beginning to wonder if there are drugs involved. I just can't reconcile everything that has happened with the man I knew. Honestly, it feels as though each piece of information I learn makes the story worse.
Yesterday was his wife's birthday. Wishing her "happy birthday" seemed absolutely ridiculous. There is absolutely nothing "happy" about yesterday, or probably most of the last six months for that fact. We texted back and forth for a bit, and honestly, it brought me to tears. This woman and her kids are being so strong and brave, and my heart just breaks for them. While I certainly didn't discuss this with her, for many of us who know them, our biggest concern is whether or not this man is still alive. His mental state is clearly questionable, and I just can't imagine his family having to go through that on top of everything else. Honestly, I am beginning to wonder if there are drugs involved. I just can't reconcile everything that has happened with the man I knew. Honestly, it feels as though each piece of information I learn makes the story worse.
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