We've learned this weekend that my brother-in-law's girlfriend has decided that she no longer wants to be his girlfriend. I absolutely can't blame her, but as I am an in-law, my opinion differs on who might be to "blame" than the rest of the family. This is the fifth "significant other" that has been in our kids lives. They've all lasted a significant amount of time because there is usually no "alone time" between them...he can't handle being alone. When he began dating this one, I refused to allow myself to become emotionally invested because it seemed to make sense it wouldn't last. However, this one seemed to have the patience of a saint, she was around for over two years, and has been extremely good to my in-laws. She also has a seven-year-old son, and when we told the kids last night, Thomas said, "I won't get to see D anymore, even though we are buddies." His eyes even got teary. My heart aches for him, that he is experiencing this loss. This is why the girlfriend before, whom we ALL knew wouldn't last and who also had kids...I did everything I could to keep my kids from getting attached to those kids. Maybe that is selfish and simply not nice, but I so don't want my kids to be hurt when there is nothing they can do about it...and maybe something that I CAN do about it.
Next week during spring break, Andrew is taking the kids to visit his parents. Originally I was going to go along but right now I feel it is more important that I be near my mom. I also think, given everyone's emotional state about life in general right now, that it is best this way. While my anxiety will be pretty high, I also know that I'll enjoy some quiet time!
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