I'm tired and grumpy

Yes, yes I am.  I am tired and grumpy, and quite honestly, getting a little resentful.  Some things have got to change around here or it's going to get very unpleasant, very fast.  I love being "mom" and it truly is the best job in the world.  However, "mom" is not maid/butler/cook/laundress, etc.  I'm happy to do those things, but attitude, tone, and expectations go a long way in making life pleasant.  And honestly, it's just as much my wonderfully dear husband as it is the kids...in some ways it's even more him than the kids.  I'm tired of feeling disrespected, and I'm tired of crying.